Each and every one of us only has a limited amount of time to make a meaningful and purposeful life. So I recommend you don’t waste it on people (genetically related or not) who  are draining, dangerous, and/or destructive. They will only make you feel miserable, stressed, and guilty. Here are 4 types of people you need to get out of your life:

1. Gossipers. Being around someone who is always talking smack adds nothing to your life. In fact, when you’re surrounded by negativity you may not realize that you’re also becoming negative.

2. Manipulators. People who manipulate don’t care about your thoughts and feelings. They are controlling, abusive bullies. You may not stick up for yourself simply because it’s easier. For example, women who stay with battering men stick around because they don’t want to be alone. They waste their lives playing mind games with themselves, making rationalizations like, “Well, he’s nice when he’s not beating me.” The most classic type of manipulator is the victim, such as a snowflake family member or friend. They make you feel guilty for leaving them in order to reel you back in.

3. Critics. No matter what you say or how hard you try to make him or her happy, this person always has a criticism. And the worst part is, you behave as though he or he is right.

4. Naysayers. We all know people who complain about problems but never do anything to remedy them. When you offer suggestions on how they can improve their lives, you’re met with the default response, “I can’t do that,” or, “I’ve already tried that.” I think you should always be helpful and compassionate to people, but if they aren’t willing to participate in their own growth, your help is useless.