Looking In All The Wrong Places For Prince Charming
May 18, 2016
Looking In All The Wrong Places For Prince Charming



My online dating profile used to be carefully composed with a clever headline that perfectly matched my flirty profile picture.  My description listed all the "wow" factors I could think of while briskly skipping over the less desirable ones (including that I was living paycheck to paycheck, unable to keep a job past the probation period, or that I had a past with drugs and depression which left me with an STD).  

No - I was in a hurry, hounded by the fear of getting older and still being single.  So from age 37 - 43, I juggled THREE online dating services at the same time.  I was determined!  But I finally realized that meeting people this way was very artificial.  Most of them (myself included) were liars.  We were fake, insecure hopefuls with voids to fill.  It's a playground for con artists, ex-cons, criminals and liars.  And they are not unattractive.  Some of the most dangerous situations from online dates I found myself in were with good looking guys in my 30-45 age range.  In the seven years I did this, I never got a prince.  I got frogs who had insatiable appetites for sexting and getting between the sheets!

Looking back, I'm horrified at the risks I took just to curb my loneliness.  Internet dating is like pesticides on fruit - you can't see the artificial chemicals even though you know they're there.  Everything looks good, and hey, you want peaches NOW!  You choose the pesticide-riddled peach because it's better than nothing.  

I finally decided to be celibate.  It's been over three years, and the next time I go on a date, it will be with someone I met "organically."  I've come to realize I'm really an old-fashioned girl after all.

Mattie





Posted by Staff at 10:59 AM