Dr. Laura, 

Recently, you had a female caller who was living with a divorced man who has two kids. You advised, she find a man with no minor children. She announced there weren't any! 

My husband and I raised four sons: they are 34, 33, 29, 30. I homeschooled them the last half of their education. We raised them on one income.  At one time, my husband had a full-time job and two part-time jobs so I could stay home with our sons. We taught our sons that dating was intended to find a wife, not to have sex. Our two oldest, served their country, dated their future wives, married and had children in that order. Their wives do not work, they stay at home and raise their family and yes, they homeschool. Our two youngest sons go to work every day, own their own homes and have cars that are paid off. They want to be married, but here is the problem...they can't find a girl who has not shacked up with some stud. 

These girls who pass themselves around to every man, and live with whoever will have them, are NOT the kind of young women a man who has worked hard and waited patiently their entire life want to marry. If my sons met your caller, they wouldn't give her a second look. Finding the right, eligible man isn't the problem: finding women who value themselves enough to wait for the right man...that's the problem. 

I close with this thought, my future daughters-in-law will be happy women... I know because my sons take after their father! 

Linda