I Didn't Think It Was A Big Deal, I Was Wrong
June 1, 2016
I Didn't Think It Was A Big Deal, I Was Wrong

Dear Dr. Laura:

I called you several months ago with a dilemma:  should I have lunch with an attractive, single female former co-worker, 20 years my junior, who I had mentored for several years, and if so, should I tell my wife about it?  I was certain that nothing inappropriate would happen, but you said it would have the appearance of impropriety, and instead suggested that I tell my wife and the two of us take the former co-worker out to lunch.I took your advice, but my wife was not at all receptive to the idea and instead suggested I catch up with the co-worker over the phone, which I did.  

Frankly, I was taken aback by my wife's negative reaction - we have been married for 27 years without any hint of infidelity on either of our parts - and I did not think going to lunch was a big deal.  Until I talked to my wife, I did not fully understand how hurt and angry she would have been had I gone to lunch and then she found out later.  By following your advice, I avoided making a very damaging mistake and hurting my wife which I would never want to do.

Thanks, Dr. Laura, for really saving my butt!


Posted by Staff at 10:59 AM