For the past 20 years, you've been my wise, loving, no-nonsense virtual mother, and because of your guidance, I've led a life that has made me happy and proud. You gave me the validation to be a stay-at-home mom, when my own mother and mother-in-law never did. You were the voice inside my head who always told me that what I was doing had value.
Fifteen years ago, I had a 4-year-old son who had just been diagnosed with autism and a 1- year-old. My mother wanted me to go back to work and be the "supermom" that her friends' daughters appeared to be. Yet, I was already thoroughly exhausted taking my son to his therapies and caring for a baby. If I had gone back to work, everything would fall apart, my marriage and kids would suffer, and I would be miserable. You convinced me (despite all the contrary messages I heard from family and friends) that staying home was a worthy endeavor. My husband and I agreed to downsize and move to a community with a slower pace. He took a new job where he could work from home, even though the pay was less. Because of you, I made my sons, my husband and my overall health and well-being a priority, and I made the right decisions. My sons are kind, intelligent, respectful and compassionate and being stuck at home with them right now is a real joy. You played a huge part in helping me rear them right, and you never had to babysit! It may be a week late, but Happy Mother's Day and thanks for being the best mom and grandma I could have ever had.