Dr. Laura:
I have a perfect example of how a small act of kindness toward your husband can set the sails in the right direction.  
My husband and I were watching a movie together, and we were eating pistachios.  After a few minutes, I cracked one open and fed it to him.  I looked at him and said, "
I love you."  He smiled, ate the pistachio, and a second later, HE cracked one open and fed it to me.  I thought that was so sweet - and an example of how a man responds to love just as you outlined in your book "
The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands." It wasn't but a minute later that he turned to me with a handful of pistachios that he'd cracked open for me.  "
For me?" I said.  "
Of course," he said.  "
I love you too."
It's such a silly little story, but if you just give a bit of extra time and care, he's prepared to give the world back to you - even if it's just a handful of pistachios.  I hope this helps a wife out there who longs for more from her husband but doesn't know where to start.  
Rowena