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Behold the Underlying Truth

Dear Dr. Laura,

Oh my dear friend, brilliant resource, spiritual advisor, and cheerleader...I have composed many emails to you in my head. I'm finally sitting down to tap this out because of a call I heard yesterday.

The caller was an older sister in a family where the dad was ill. The details aren't important, it's the remark she made about doing the right thing followed by "...but...". You called her out, of course.  

This is something that my husband and I have been saying for years. We consider "B.U.T." to be an acronym... for "BEHOLD the UNDERLYING TRUTH". Whatever remark being made is negated by..."behold the underlying truth".

"I should leave, B.U.T. I don't want to be alone."

"I should stay home and raise my kids, B.U.T. we need the income for day care." 

Until callers are willing to do the work, there is usually a "B.U.T."

Many thanks to you for your heart, guidance, stories, humor. I have listened to you and admired you for 22 years. My husband and I have built solid, happy lives that includes 4 children. I've been a homemaker since the first was born.  I adore you! Thank you for enriching my life.

Gratefully yours, Love,


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Tags: Attitude, Behavior, Character-Courage-Conscience, Humor, Values
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