My husband left me two years ago when our boys were 13 and 17. I cried for a solid month and did everything I could to get him back. Then I woke up one morning and decided "no more crying!" I applied the wisdom I gained from you over the years and decided to take the bull by the horns.
I went back to teaching while the kids are in school, and I've made a solid choice not to date until my youngest is up and out. My kids and I go hiking, running, and we lift weights. We go to the movies, church, and have "it's your choice" dinner nights. We hang out on the couch, and we play basketball too. My life is full, and so is theirs. Their dad is still in their lives, thank goodness, and I do my best to remain friendly with him for the sake of our kids. But I haven't given dating another man a second thought because of the wonderful opportunities out there that exist for me and my children. My kids may not have their dad around every day, but they have me.
I know from you that this is the time to take care of myself and my children and not create more drama in their lives. They'll grow up soon enough, so I need to give my kids the time they require and deserve. Thanks to YOU for reminding me of that every day.