Dear Dr. Laura,
I had a decision to make recently regarding when to stand your ground or let it go.
I was at my nephew's wedding with my family, sitting in the 2nd row when the grandparents of the ring bearer and flower girl (no relation to our families) demanded our seats. The grandfather said they needed to be by the kids. When we asked the wedding coordinator, she assured us the front row seats included space for the kids and one parent. The grandfather continued to make a scene, as there were no seats available, except in the back. I told him the first few rows were reserved for the immediate family of the groom.
With the wedding about to start and this man still making a scene, I told my husband, "I don't want to ruin memories of this day fighting over seats. Let's go." We sat in the back and could not see much of the ceremony. I felt cheated out of seeing my nephew's wedding that day, but was glad to hear afterwards the bride and groom never knew what happened. My brother was furious when he found out and was going to talk to his "friend", (the grandfather) about it. I don't know what happened after that, but I know I did the right thing.