I had watched a television program where they suggested that you ask your man, 'What is your vision for us, for our future?'. The idea was to get him to open up and share his dreams with you.
While on vacation in Napa Valley, I asked my boyfriend of about 8 months, what his vision was for us. His answer?
"I don't see a vision of a future for us." I was totally stunned and taken off guard. Looking back, he was right, we were VERY mismatched. But now we were stuck on vacation for 3 more days together. Each day was so incredibly painful until we could fly home. I cried non stop. Once I arrived home and said goodbye to him, decided on a 2 week "break" with no contact. Just to be sure I didn't go back to a bad situation. It was time to re-find myself without the boyfriend.
The next time he called, I told him I wanted 2 weeks with no contact and he was very surprised. A couple of weeks later, I knew life was better without him. I missed him, but I had already found my way again. I realized I did NOT want to date someone who had already determined there was no future for us.
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