Dear Dr. Laura,
Today's e-mail of the day (
Found Dog Reminds Me of Missed Years
) made an impact on me! Unfortunately I was driving on a very busy highway and trying not to cry as you were reading. I did make it safely to my destination.
I am a full-time wife and mother. My husband makes only 31K/year working hard as an assistant manager in a retail chain. When he asked me to marry him I said yes, but only if he promised I could stay home with our children.
Here I am, 8 years later, a mother to a super energetic and bright 4-year old girl, and an 11 month old baby boy, my sweet little man.
I am drained! Where is the young pretty thing filled to the brim with energy that my husband married? I hear daily from my husband that I'm beautiful and sexy, but I just don't see it.
I make my husband great food and give him GREAT sex (read your book). I do the grocery shopping, keep the house very clean, and tend to my children's' needs. Sometimes I get away and take yoga and enjoy every single minute of that quiet time. I'll never take those things for granted again.
When I heard the email you read about the mother watching a nanny accept love from a child, I realized that although I am exhausted, frazzled, tired, and sometimes fantasize about driving off into the sunset with a handsome stranger on a motorcycle or with Edward the vampire, I will NEVER wonder if I missed a hug, an "aha" moment, or a sweet kiss from my children.
In fact, while I'm at it day and in day out, I may as well add another baby to this family so I can get even more kisses and hugs.
Thanks for you ongoing support,