Hi, I’m Dr. Laura Schlessinger, welcoming you to our YouTube channel and answering the questions from you folks. This one’s from Simone:
“My husband and I are unable to have kids. I thought I had come to terms with this and accepted it, but now I find myself angry at things I should not be angry at. For example, I really lost my temper when my dog got excited and peed in the house. [Yeah, I’m not too happy when that happens either. (Laughs)]
Losing my temper is happening more and more and, at first, I could not figure out why. After thinking and examining my life, I realized I usually lose my temper after I have been around young kids. (I'm never angry when I’m aroundyoung kids -- I love kids and get along great with them.)
I don't think I'm as ‘over’ not being able to have kids as I have been telling myself. My rational side knows that I'm mad at myself and my inability to have kids [Oh, come on. That wasn’t intentional on your part to mess up your body. Nature is nature.], but I'm not expressing that anger in a healthy way. How can I help myself accept the infertility, express my anger properly, and then move past the anger?”
First of all get off this blaming yourself that you’re infertile. It’s not like you went [pulls arms together, squints and makes funny noises], “I’m not going to make babies!” Ok? This is not your fault. However, have you ever thought about becoming a foster parent? A lot of people become foster parents and that moves on to adoption. If the point is to make a family, does it really matter where the kid comes from? No. If biology mattered that much, you’d have to marry your brother. You are not biologically related to your husband (I’m assuming).
So you can love somebody when there’s no DNA that you share. I think you should get busy and start becoming a foster mom. If you like being around kids, kids in the foster care system really need somebody and I bet you and a child are going to find each other, and it’s going to be love at first sight.
I’m Dr. Laura Schlessinger. Until next time, on our YouTube channel.