I am a 35 year old mother and wife and my husband is 55. We have been married 9 years and for most of that I was a nagging, unloving selfish woman. It was my way or the highway. I have been changing that and let me tell you there is a HUGE difference in our marriage. I have an autoimmune disorder, two children at home, I suffer from anxiety and I just found out I'm pregnant. So to those ladies who think they are overwhelmed, or they are too tired for sex you are wrong. It takes less time for me to hug my husband when he gets home than it does to start bitching about my day. It takes less effort for me to smile at him across the table than it does for me to complain about the amount of work I do. It takes a lot less time for me to start it up in the bedroom than it does for me to just fall asleep (and I sleep better afterwards too). And in return I get coffee in bed, a good morning hug, yard work done, garbage out, my bath run for me. It pains me to think of the years my husband stuck by me out of love when he could have easily walked away while he was waiting for me to be the kind of woman he wanted. Our marriage has done a 360 and we have your books to thank for part of it. We both read "The Proper Care & Feeding of Marriage so thank you for giving us your advice. And for letting me see just how wonderful a respected well loved man can treat his wife.