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03/15/2016
Dr. Laura:
Long ago, I was a privileged brat but my father still put me through four years of college. One day, he said his friend had a job for me at the local grocery store. I responded that he told me I wouldn't have to work during college, but my Dad wisely mentioned he thought it would be beneficial. I really resented him, but I went and got the job.
Most days started with my being in a quiet rage. After all, I was a college student - I shouldn't have to work with high school kids in a grocery store! But I realized I had to adjust my attitude and greet people with a smile and make them feel welcome in the store, and I did that. After a few weeks, it hit me that I was really happy in the afternoon and that was a big contrast to how I was starting off the day. Intentionally shifting into my "work" personality actually made me happier than I had been in a long time. That's when I realized the power I had over my own emotions. If I changed my behavior, my mood followed. I could CHOOSE to be happy.
My father is gone now, but the lesson I learned from him has helped my outlook on life and all my relationships. I apply this principle in my marriage, at my current job, and with my friendships. Who knew that I'd learn such a life lesson in a grocery store? I often hear you teaching this truth to people who struggle in their marriages-act like you're happy, give a loving touch, greet him with a smile or give her a hug - and it WILL make you feel better. I know from experience you're right! Keep up the good work.
Steve
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