My husband and I have been married for 11 years, and we have 2 boys ages 9 1/2 and 8. When they were young, our sex life was practically nonexistent, which was a major change from before we had children. My husband didn't complain, but I know he wasn't very happy.... And I was just too tired.
I've listened to you for 16 years and slowly, but surely put your ideas and suggestions into use. “The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands” really opened my eyes and made me re-adjust my thinking. First, I took advantage of the days when we were alone at home with the boys at school, finding mid-day romps fun and energizing. We also realized that by waiting until we went to bed at 11 pm or later to fool around was a HUGE mistake - we were often too tired or not in the mood, and if we were, let's just say the quality was lacking on my end, although no fault of my husband.
Our solution? We head back to our room after we know the boys are asleep and fool around. We are able to devote our full attention and energy on pleasing each other and enjoying the intimacy. Over the last couple of years of doing this, our sex life and relationship have never been better.
Our bodies are very much in tune and I know I find my body responds in ways I didn't know it could.
Like many people right now, we are struggling financially, but we still make our relationship the most important thing and I know we can weather any storm. Our intimate relationship is a major factor in the strength of our marriage. I wish all marriages could experience something similar.