As a 25-year-old single woman living in New York City, I find it's difficult to have morals and make friends or meet datable men. The vast majority of people my age in this city do not uphold the right values, if any at all. I called a girlfriend of mine to vent about the lack of eligible men and how I'm a bit worried I won't find one here and will never have kids unless I move soon. My friend said, "if you get to your late 30s and you're still single and can't find a husband to have children with, then have one on your own!"
Nothing could have snapped me out of my funk more than that comment. I instantly replied, "I could NEVER do that to my child." My friend was bewildered, so I explained that if I were to die tonight and be born again, I'd want a loving mommy AND daddy to raise me. I could never deprive my future child of that. So my friend suggested I start online dating, but I don't want to do that.
Even though I sometimes feel hopeless about finding a suitable husband, I have not felt more confident as a woman and potential mother to know that I would never sacrifice my children's needs for my own. As badly as I want a family, I'd rather have no kids than deliberately not be the best mom I know I can be. There's a profound peace in knowing that.
Thank you for empowering me. Family planning starts PRIOR to conception. Think selflessly, raise effectively and keep fighting the good fight. Thanks, Dr. Laura, for being the role model for all mommies, current and future.