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My Flirting Spouse

Hi, Dr. Laura Schlessinger here.  This is our YouTube channel and a letter from Denise with a question:

"Since I was nervous about an impending hysterectomy, my husband and I and our 3 adult children recently went out one evening to a local pub to get my mind off the surgery for a while and to offer emotional support.

When we arrived, we ran into one of my husband's former employees.  She had been drinking heavily. [Uh oh, the plot is thickening.]  She was single, but was there with her son and the son's wife.  She started hanging all over my husband, unbuttoned his shirt, and even rubbed her hands on his chest!  [And he stood there for that?]

He asked if it was okay with me if he went over to another table to sit with her.  I was hurt by the question and even more hurt by his blatant flirting with her when he knew I was concerned about my upcoming surgery.  [What the heck does your surgery...I know emotionally you feel like less of a woman because you're losing parts nobody sees anyway, but that has nothing to do with it.  Your husband was rude, crude and socially unacceptable and very unloving as a husband.  And this is should put him over your knee and give him a spanking.]  Our children were upset, and I felt humiliated.

He will not acknowledge how hurt I was at his flirting and his basic insensitivity to my feelings.  Am I overreacting, and if not, what should I do about it?"

Tell him to go live with his mother until he figures it out, and I'm not kidding.  And that's it.  He betrayed you, not because you have surgery but because he acted like an unbelievable pig.  What the heck are you doing married to such a guy?  Don't tell me this is the first time you've seen this behavior.  Come on.  And she wouldn't take such license in front of you if she hadn't once taken license [looks around and rolls eyes] behind you (if you get my drift). 

I'm Dr. Laura Schlessinger.  Until next time on our YouTube channel.



Tags: Adultery, Affair, Bad Behavior, Behavior, Commitment, Health, Marriage
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