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Que Sera Sera!

Dear Dr. Laura,

I am your "Que Sera Sera" caller, and I want to thank you from the bottom of my heart for changing my life and those of my husband, 3 1/2 year old son, and 21 month old daughter.

I've finally acknowledged that when I was growing up, my family's dialogue was about fears, and I learned to think 1) if I was perfect, my parents would be happy and 2) I couldn't be happy unless I was perfect. I learned to think in terms of fears, so your insistence that I can change my thinking and that I can't fail is liberating in a way I can't describe.

My kids now sing "Que Sera Sera" with me, and since I called, we've had monumental moments like the following: playing in the play area at a local restaurant without any germ worrying on my part; washing dishes (without any freaking out from me about the water everywhere); and even making meatloaf together (which would have made me short circuit a few weeks ago). I still am plagued by fearful thoughts, but I resist them, and I sing, "Que Sera Sera."  Now I'm actually getting to be present to the blessing of being home with my kids.

Lastly, I read your blog "Love at First Sight", and it's so true. A while ago I lost my wedding ring, and I was heartbroken about it. I thought I was more bothered by it than my husband was, but I was wrong. He was bothered, but not for same reasons as me. We can't get a new ring right now, but recently he had our son hand me a little box that contained a simple band. Without referencing the fact I lost my diamond ring, he said not only was he giving me this band until he can get me something better, but also he didn't like looking at my left hand and seeing it bare.  He wanted something there that represented him. So, I think I got a pretty good ring after all, and I definitely got a good man, who does stake his claim and who wants me to have and share joy with him.

I've decided I'm not going to ruin my marriage or my kids (or any longer myself) with my fears, and you're helping me do that.

Thank you so much for everything.


Tags: Anxiety, Fears, Follow up to Call, Health, Mental Health, Parenting, Perfectionism, Read On-Air, Response to a Call, Spouse, Stress
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