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Saying 'No' to Your Husband's Advances

Hi, I'm Dr. Laura Schlessinger and welcome to our YouTube channel.  Today's question is from Ashley:

"I've heard you counsel married women to not turn away their husbands when they want to have sex with them. I've never been married so I'm soaking up all I can to help me when I do marry. Is it absolutely NEVER okay to say no to your husband - even when you're sick? [Gives a "sigh" and disappointed look.]  Not being there yet, I'm curious what "tips" you can give all women for overcoming not feeling well to go forward and still have sex with their husbands."

Let's just say that if you're needing Kaopectate or an IV...come on, that's just silly.  If you're husband is saying, "Hey baby, I want to pump you", when you're sick, you've married a jerk.  We're talking about when you're feeling irritated or "I'm annoyed", or "I'm just too tired today", and turning away your man when...this is the measure that men have of how much we love them whether we're willing to accept them (literally) into our bodies, whether we're willing to open up to them; this is how men register that their woman loves them. 

It's not just "getting off" - he can do that without you, all by himself with his thoughts, with his memories, with a computer, with a magazine...he can do that without you.  He's wanting to make love to you.  To turn that down is a blatant rejection.  If you've got a fever of 104 and he's not taking you to the emergency room but he wants to get you from behind, I think you married the wrong guy. 

I'm Dr. Laura Schlessinger.  Until next time on our YouTube channel, go do the right thing.


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Tags: Husband, Intimacy, Marriage, Sex
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