Hi, I'm Dr. Laura Schlessinger and this is our YouTube channel. We have a letter here from Martin that I will answer:
"Five years ago, we started taking tae kwon do as a family from a local instructor. About two years into the program, the instructor and my wife began spending more time together and eventually it turned into an affair due to me not meeting her emotional needs.
We went to marriage counseling and proceeded to work on our relationship. We take things day by day, but my wife, who is a first-degree black belt now, is working on her second-degree black belt [Laughs] and wants to resume taking classes from her former lover. [I don't think she's taking the therapy very seriously.]
I told her I would prefer she go to a different school and she feels that I'm controlling and not being supportive.
She says there is nothing going on now. Should I trust her to go back to his class or should I report him to his tae kwon do federation about the affair?"
Well I don't know that the tae kwon do federation cares a wit...I'm not sure that'll be an issue for them. But I think your marriage is still in serious, deep trouble if your wife is still willing to flaunt continuing in this way. [I'm trying to keep this "G-rated."]
You're not being controlling; she's not being supportive. This is a very bitchy, hostile, cruel thing to do and she knows it. She doesn't mind that she's hurting you. How can you think you're going to have a happy marriage with a woman who doesn't mind that she's hurting you? I mean, really.
I'm Dr. Laura Schlessinger. By the way, as a first-degree black belt, I figure it's black no matter how many degrees of black. I tried to do second-degree black belt...one of the things I had to do was run up a wall, push off the wall with one foot, kick a bag and land. That's when I decided first degree was perfect.
I'm Dr. Laura Schlessinger. Until next time, here on our YouTube channel.
