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There ARE Good Guys Out There

Dear Dr. Laura -

I have been a listener for nearly 20 years and am a huge fan, but work full-time and don't get a chance to listen very often. Today I decided to run an errand during lunchtime and in the short time it took to drive there and back I was able to tune in to a few commercials and one call on your show. The call was from a man who explained in great detail his wife's bout with breast cancer, her troubles with implants, and his support of her not having drastic reconstructive surgery. I wasn't sure where he was going with his call, but then he dropped the bomb and asked how he is supposed to have sex with his wife when she won't cover up and the appearance of her scars is "Godawful." Really? Did he just repeat over and over his wife's appearance was "Godawful?" I called him names out loud in my car as I held back tears. I instantly felt so sad for his wife; that she is married to such a selfish ass and at the same time so grateful for my loving and supportive husband.

At the age of 32, I was diagnosed with breast cancer, just 6 months after my husband and I were married. I didn't have a mastectomy, but a large portion of my breast was removed, including my lymph nodes, which left me with a scar from my armpit to my nipple and also left my breasts two very different sizes. I am self-conscious about it, but not once in the last 15 years has my husband ever expressed any problems with looking at my body. He's never asked me to cover up, in fact, just the opposite. I always knew he was my angel and an amazing husband, and I am still so thankful for him everyday so thankful I picked the right guy. There ARE good guys out there. My heart goes out to the wife of this "man." I hope she has a larger support system to help her.

Thank you for all that you do and all that you are. You came into my life many years ago and helped me change it and I am forever grateful.


Tags: Breast Cancer, Health, Man's Point of View, Marriage, Men's Point of View, Response to a Call, Sex
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