Dear Dr. Laura:
As a long-time fan of yours, I learned the secrets of having an amazing marriage long before I married. After six years, I know I've chosen wisely and thought I was treating kindly, but recently, I noticed my husband wasn't being very nice to me anymore. He was sarcastic, quick to anger, and didn't offer to do things for me like take out the trash or snuggle at bedtime. I was confused and started bickering with him.
Then I took a step back and realized that I hadn't been a good wife lately either! I was stressed, moody, irritable, resentful and didn't have sex with him regularly for a few months. I've been a listener for too long to not know how to fix this, so I turned back on "the girlfriend." Even when I didn't feel like it, I initiated a good romp with him. I was sweet, I was flirty, and I touched him in some small way every time I was near him. I noticed a change in attitude, but then the kicker came.
We were in bed and he started kissing me, but then he pulled away. In the kindest tone I have ever heard from him, he looked me in the eyes and said "I love you. And more than that, I need you in every way. I never want to imagine my life without you." He has always been a kind man, but I had never heard such an intense expression of love and passion from him in our entire relationship. It's amazing how a good man can exceed your expectations and become Rhett Butler with a good wife at his side loving him and treating him well.
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