Dear Dr. Laura,
I had to chuckle when I heard the call of the newly engaged young lady with a ring from her boyfriend's former fiancée. I too received a ring that had previously belonged to my future husband's former gal! I pondered this when he present it and thought it's a beautiful diamond, we will never get it's full worth if we turn it in and right now we don't have enough for a down payment on a house when we get married. So it seemed ridiculous at the time not to accept the diamond from the man I was sure loved me. I did however state that "someday" I would love a new ring when we had the extra money.
We just celebrated our 25th anniversary and my "someday" came in the form of a beautiful 4 carat diamond ring which I adore along with my husband!
You gave her good advice! Love her future husband not the ring!