(originally published February 19, 2009)
"I love your show, but it makes me CRAZY when you subscribe to the double standard that men get a pass on being sexually cavalier but women are to be thoroughly and soundly condemned. Why, oh why, don't you condemn the men as much as the women? Why aren't they just as 'piggy' and deserving of condemnation? That societal attitude encourages men to attempt to use women sexually as their birthright and also encourages women to be insecure and distrustful of sex in general. You're putting a sexual burka on women overall with that attitude.
I'm not advocating casual sex. I'm condemning the acceptance of a double standard. Come on! There are two sides of that coin and each should assume major responsibility for engaging in casual sex. Until the act is equally condemned, how can women take those rules seriously?"
This is an email from a listener taking me to task for what she perceives is a sort of anti-female, double standard mentality.
First of all, God and nature are responsible for the reality of a double standard. Women have breasts from which to suckle the baby born from their uterus after a nine month gestation. Women's high-pitched voices and hearing are geared for the infant-mother bonding that miraculously takes place right after birth. Women's temperaments to nurture, cuddle, coo, and protect are hardwired into their psychological programming. Women are different from men.
There is no question that men more easily dissociate love and sex. Young males in particular are open to sexual experiences for the challenge, orgasmic satisfaction, and status among other males. These qualities are not synonymous with femininity.
Women give themselves sexually to men out of love, a desperate desire to be wanted and loved, or for money. It is not typical, as it is with men, for a woman to feel proud of the number of men who have penetrated her; and the only women who look for the sexual challenge are those so twisted with anti-male rage that domination of a male is a form of psychological rape which satisfies that neurotic anger.
Males are generally out of control every which way until they fall in love and take on the obligations and responsibilities of a man committed to a woman and family. All the research demonstrates that men who are married make more money, are healthier and happier, and function better socially than "loner" men. In fact, the deranged males who perpetrate horrendous acts of violence are generally such loner males with no families to make them feel important, give them purpose and direction...and love.
Women are the taming and socializing force in society. Men will only do what women allow. Remember the ancient Greek classical play "Lysistrata"? The women in the town refused to have sex if their men continued to participate in war and violence. Poof, all the violence stopped. Women have always had the power over men; but feminism got women off the track of realizing that, and on the track to only hating or disdaining men.
Now, women have largely become "pigs." Instead of embracing modesty, pride, values, and self-value, they parade around showing their bodies like Playboy bunnies, have sex before "hello," shack up with men without marital commitment, make babies on their own (declaring that men/fathers aren't necessary), use abortion as birth control, and don't imagine feminine sweetness has any place in marriage and are bored with sex with their husbands but turn on to every other Tom, Dick, and Harry. That is why men have little respect for women these days.