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Receiving Love: Four Ways to Be in Receiving Mode

By Dawnie Dahir

Why can't I find someone who loves and wants to marry me? There are millions of people asking themselves questions like this every day. According to the US Bureau of Labor Statistics in 2014 50.2 percent of the population 16 years old and older were single.   

This isn't a problem if being single is what you desire. But a large number of people really want someone to love and marry, someone who likes what they like, someone who is there to listen, someone to laugh, cry and grow old with. These people might want to change their question to:  What can I do to get into the receiving mode of what I want? There are steps that you can take to help improve your chances of finding a wonderful mate.  

  1. Be happy!
    No one can make you happy except you; happiness is truly an inside job. Stop expecting other people to do what you want in the one way that will make you happy. Step off the complaining treadmill and be more appreciative of what is going well in your life. By being committed to figuring out what makes you happy, you will naturally be in the receiving mode.   

  2. Accept yourself just the way you are!
    You are a unique individual with many gifts and talents. Stop comparing yourself to others and focus on what you do well, not what you can't do. When you accept yourself as you are, you stop worrying about what other people think and start living your life in a more authentic way putting you into the receiving mode.    

  3. Love yourself!
    When you can make yourself happy and accept yourself just the way you are, the next organic step is loving yourself, feeling good in your own skin. This is a way of life where you appreciate yourself, where you see the glass as full.  Some people might be offended that you no longer want to be a part of their drama. So what, let them!  You will be in the receiving mode of getting what you want by loving yourself.

  4. Make new friends!
    Whenever you start changing what can happen is that you no longer enjoy hanging out with your regular crowd or vise versa. Accept that your values have changed, let some people naturally drift out of your life and watch new acquaintances become new friends as you are living in the receiving mode. 

As you are changing on the inside, the outside will also begin to change. You will be in the receiving mode of whatever it is you want. Opportunities will seem to show up out of nowhere and what you are interested in can turn into passions that you didn't know existed inside of you. Allow the changes to naturally unfold as you become the person you were always meant to be. Now that you are happy, accepting yourself, loving yourself and making new friends, you will romantically be attracting people who you might want to marry and have a future with.  Getting into the receiving mode takes time, it takes energy and it takes focus.  But, if you are committed to finding the person of your dreams, you will take the time, energy and focus to get into the receiving mode. It is a delicious way to live!

Dawnie Dahir is a speaker, author of two books, Let Me Give You A Whisper and Whispers of Change and a Holistic Coach with a BBA from The University of Texas. For many years Dawnie has been passionate about self-transformation. She seeks to inspire others to embrace change as they become who they are truly meant to be. Her desire is to equip you with the knowledge that can help you live your life with more love, more peace, and more fun. Dawnie and her husband, Ed, have been married for 36 years and have three wonderful daughters and sons-in-laws, 5 delightful grandchildren and 4 granddogs. Permission granted for use on
Tags: Attitude, Behavior, Choose Wisely-Treat Kindly, Dating, Relationships
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