12/19/2011
Do you know that fewer than half of Americans make New Year's Resolutions? Of those who do make them, the three most frequent resolutions are about weight loss (no surprise there), exercise, and stopping smoking. Also popular are ones dealing with better money management and debt reduction. More >>
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Tags: Eat Less-Move More, Exercise, Finances, Health, Holidays, New Year, New Year's Resolutions, Parenting, Personal Responsibility
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10/11/2010
"My homework is done!" Imagine hearing the words above, before having to ask the question. Wouldn't it be wonderful to know that the homework was complete and your child was ahead?
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Tags: Adult Child-Parent, Eat Less-Move More, Education, Exercise, Family/Relationships - Adult Child/Parent, Family/Relationships - Children, Family/Relationships - Teens, Health, Motherhood, Motherhood-Fatherhood, Parenting, Personal Responsibility, Teens
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05/13/2010
Have you ever had the experience of trying
not
to think of something?' Like when you're trying to go to sleep and something upsetting keeps coming to mind?' You may attempt to squeeze it out of your mind, but it seems to come back with a vengeance.'What you learn about your mind is that when you try to shove something into a dark closet, your mind feels compelled to peek into that closet again and again to see if it's still there.'Everybody has memories from the past they'd rather not remember.Everybody has annoying, upsetting, or threatening events going on in their everyday lives.Everybody is bothered by thoughts they'd rather not have.Instead of pushing them away, invite them in and deal with them.Some callers have told me that after a year or two of marriage, they think about an old high school flame, and they wonder if this is an "omen" that they've married the wrong person.' No, of course not."Courting" is fun; marriage has obligations, responsibilities and challenges.' Even the things we love can feel overwhelming.' Fantasies and thoughts and dreams about someone else are brain "vacations," taking you to a time when you had no worries.' Invite those thoughts in and examine them:' "Let's see...if I married John instead of my husband Steve, hmmm...gee, I'd miss Steve's smile and hugs, his manly chest, his tenderness with the kids, and eventually John would have probably ticked me off too in some silly ways."Once you've done that, it is no longer an obsession.' The vacation is over, and a greater appreciation of what you do have takes its place.Don't fight the thoughts.' Invite them in and talk to them.' Take control, and they will leave on their own.
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Tags: Behavior, Character, Courage, Conscience, Character-Courage-Conscience, Eat Less-Move More, exercise, Gratitude, Marriage, Personal Responsibility, Values
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05/13/2010
My birthday was a little over a week ago, and my husband actually got away with setting up a surprise party for me.' I went to the party location under the guise that we were going to use a 'Happy Birthday' coupon for a free dinner.' It was wonderful to see the many people who have meant, do mean, and always will mean something important to me (and the cake and dancing were great too)!I want to mention one particular gift:' a bocce ball set.' I sent out all my gift 'thank yous,' and when it came to the bocce ball set, I said something like ''Thank you so much for the bocce ball set.' I don't know how to play it, but, heck, learning yet another sport is a great idea!' Ha ha ha!'I added the 'ha ha ha' because I hike, I play tennis and badminton, I shoot pool, do yoga, race a sailboat and work out...and do at least one of these
daily
.' But then I thought about my 'joke' and realized it IS a very good idea to learn yet another 'whatever' all the time.' Part of the joy of being alive (and a large part of what keeps your brain and body healthy and your mood positive) is having purpose in your life and learning something new all the time.People who don't continue to grow, be challenged, learn and be involved in activities tend to 'contract,' have depression problems, and compromise the quality of their aging and actual life span.So, while this blog is not an ad for bocce ball, it is a suggestion (and don't forget who's making it!) for you to
constantly challenge yourself
with everything from crossword puzzles to chasing butterflies.' The more you are invested in the opportunities of living, the more you will enjoy it and be alert and happy.
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Tags: Attitude, Character, Courage, Conscience, Character-Courage-Conscience, Eat Less-Move More, Education, Exercise, grandchildren, Health, Personal Responsibility, Purpose, Relatives, Values
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